Obsessed

Light skinned girls like you. That was the response. And you wonder, what was the reason?

INTRODUCTION

Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing fine. This post is going to address an issue that one netizen raised on an Instagram confession poll. The question posed as follows;

‘What are people so obsessed with but you do not get the point?’

Light skinned women like you, somebody responded.

So here are the reasons as to why people are obsessed.

OBSESSED

You are obsessed with light skinned women because of either one or all of these reasons;

  1. Media; Social media has pushed the idea of the light skinned beauty standard so much that it actually got you obsessed.
  2. Self hate; Yes I said it. Sometimes people hate themselves so much that they want nothing to do with anything that reminds them of where they came from, who they are or what they look like.
  3. Proving a point; Some people are so obsessed with light skins and they would do anything to be seen with a light skinned woman so that the society can applaud him for ‘being a bazu.’ They want to tell the society ‘yeah I made it guys’, have you seen who I am with?
  4. Peer pressure; Some squads have a herd mentality. They all want to date and obsess over a similar type of girls. It might be that your squad got you obsessing.
  5. Status; Kenyans such as Kaligraph Jones have pushed the idea that ‘light skinned women are expensive. It is natural for men to obssess and desire to be with a woman that ‘boosts’ their status if you know what I mean. This is somehow related to the ‘bazu’ point. You obsess because you have an incessant need to be seen with a woman who requires a lot and in turn people assume you got something going for yourself.

CONCLUSION

Honestly, I love it when people state their type and show them love. It only bothers me when they obssess to the detriment of the others. For instance, a man shading a dark skinned lady who rejected him by saying ‘unaringa na vile uko mweusi ungekuwa mweupe je?” demonstrates his frustrations for ‘doing the dark skinned a favour’ because he could not get his real type (light skinned). It also reeks of obsession with light skinned women whom he probably cannot have.

I advise that people go for their type and leave out those who are not your type.

Obsess with grace.

I love you all so much. See you on the next post.

Bye

Blogmas Edition! Day 28

Elsa Majimbo and colorism

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Today, I came across some tweets calling out Elsa Majimbo for addressing colorism on Naomi Campbell’s interview. So I decided to write down a commentary on it.

Earlier on, I had a post touching on colorism and Elsa Majimbo. Feel free to check it out.

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GASLIGHTING

Now some Kenyans went ahead and attacked Elsa for addressing colorism on the show. They have compared her to Rono (a popular dark skinned, female Kenyan comedian). Some have compared her sentiments to the colorism Edwin Butita has experienced before, but nobody asked Elsa how colorism affected her career. Nobody asked Elsa how colorism mentally affected her. The Kenyan netizens only cared about the ‘disrespect on an International level’ but ignored the fact that she struggled with colorism.

People just jumped into ‘nobody has ever hinted on colorism about you in this app’ bandwagon. It is very clear that Kenyans hate to admit the fact that colorism is a real problem that should be addressed head on.

It seems Kenyans want Elsa’s approval more than learning from her and analyzing the hurdles she had to deal with (colorism included) before achieving so much. Some are now bashing dark skinned women and calling them ‘churas’ (frogs) because Elsa addressed colorism.

One netizen tried to be funny and stated that Elsa is maybe trying ‘dark humor.’ Kenyans have an ugly habit of demeaning dark skinned women and denying it simultaneously. They make colorist jokes and throw the ‘dark skinned women are so angry and sensitive, kwani hamjui jokes?‘ statement like confetti.

It is 2020 and dark skinned women can tell the difference between a joke and an insult.

CONCLUSION

Comparing Elsa to Eddy Butita and Rono is pointless. Trying to invalidate her experience with colorism via unsolicited comparisons is a gaslighting technique that needs to be left in 2020.

People should learn to listen to the colorism issues faced by dark skinned women without judging, comparing and or invalidating.

Colorism is real. Stop invalidating this issue.

Bye everyone! I will see you on the next post.

Blogmas Edition! Day 27

Betty Bayo and skin bleaching

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. This post shall discuss on whether one should change for the sake of pleasing their romantic partners.

Betty Bayo a Kenyan gospel artist bleached her skin because her then fiancee promised to marry her only if she was ‘rangi ya thao’ which when loosely translated means light skin.

Unfortunately the relationship did not last and she was left with a lot of ‘work to do’ on her skin. I think it must have been very stressful and painful for her.

My opinion

Once a man asks you to bleach yourself for him to love you/marry you/treat you right; That is a big red flaf exposing his colorist self. Do not fall for it.

I don’t think ladies should change their skin tone for anybody not even their ‘lovers’

Colorist partners are toxic. Even after you ‘bleach for them’, they will probably always remind you of how dark you were, how uneven your skin looks or mocjk you for the very decision you took for pleasing them.

Conclusion

In short, just date a person who loves your dark skin and everything about you. Do not change yourself for anyone. You have your dark skin for a reason. Embrace it.

Blogmas Edition! Day 20

Poll

Hey everyone. My apologies I am slacking. My mental health has been on the rocks of late and so my level of consistency ha dropped but we move regardless.

So today I just want to ask you guys what you would like to read on the blog. Any suggestions are welcome.

Thanks for reading and I hope to meet you at the comment section.

Day 19! Blogmas Edition

Majesty Bahati; Bullying children on colorism

Hello everyone, on this post, I am going to share my thoughts on bullying children based on colorism.

Kenyans have a habit of bullying people online including children. Recently, the netizens bullied Majesty Bahati for being darker than what he actually appears to be.

Below are some comments on the post shared by Diana Marua( mother to Majesty Bahati);

MAJESTY 👑 (@majestybahati) • Instagram photos and videos

Kumbe mnakuanga rangi tofauti ni filters tu ndio mob

Mmekuwa weusi haraka aje?

Uko na stress leo mpaka umesahau filter mumekuwa weusi 😂😂

My thoughts

Bullying children due to colorism is very harmful to their self esteem and it can potentially affect them in their adulthood.

People attach suffering and stress with dark skin and that is a stereotype that should be thrown in the bin.

Kenyans need to stop colorism and realize that making fun on people based on their skin tone is unnecessary.

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Bye and I hope to see you in the next post!

Day 18! Blogmas Edition

Can we be friends?

Hello, everyone I hope you are all doing fine. On this post I am going to write about something that I find very controversial and I would really appreciate if you engage me on your thoughts.

So I heard somebody say that some skinned women cannot be friends with light skinned women because of jealousy. Apparently dark skinned women are always jealous of light skinned women therefore, meaningful relationships cannot be achieved.

On the flip side, some people argue that some light skinned women like being friends with dark skinned women so that they can ‘outshine them and thus boost their self esteem.

I honestly think these are false misconceptions that people use to fuel the toxicity of colorism. I am dark skinned and I have heard and still have light skinned friends whom I really love.

I think friendships based on genuine love and appreciation supersede these standards that people set especially when it comes to girlfriends.

What do you guys think?

See you on the next post. Bye!

Day 14, Blogmas edition

Yvonne Okwara’s take on colorism

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. On this post, I am going to share my thoughts on what Yvonne Okwara’s (a Kenyan news anchor on Citizen TV) sentiments on colorism in the Kenya media spaces.

This is what Yvonne Okwara had to say about colorism;

My thoughts on the above video:

  1. I am happy that Yvonne addressed the issue which many people consider non-existent or exaggerated.
  2. Dark skinned people bear the brunt of being associated with the most hideous traits and that needs to stop.
  3. The media needs to value and embrace representation and inclusivity in all dimensions.
  4. Colorism is not an illusion. It is a real thing.
  5. Yvonne was very right on what she said about the issue.

Parting shot

It would be very helpful if more people especially Kenyans, would engage in honest conversations surrounding colorism, since the first step to solving a problem is the acceptance and acknowledgment of the issue.

Thanks for reading, see you on the next post.

Bye!

Day 13! Blogmas edition

Dark skinned women representation (Joanna Kinuthia)

Hello loves, today I am appreciating a Kenyan content creator by the name Joanna Kinuthia. Apart from being a big inspiration to me, I love how she has dark skinned women modeling for her cosmetic company, Joanna K cosmetics.

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Joanna Kinuthia

It is through her cosmetics line that I actually got to know the likes of Audrey Ogambo, Jane Muriithi, Ofunmi beauty, Tracy Ninsiima, Wambui Ndung’u, Michelle Ndidi,Maya Mwoka and many others.

I urge you to go through her cosmetics Instagram page on the link down below. The page is beautiful.

Joanna K Cosmetics (@joannakcosmetics) • Instagram photos and videos

See you on the next post. Bye!