My friend said I am too dark to be her bridesmaid!

Hello my lovely reader welcome to another post that touches on the issue of colorism. I got a suggestion from an avid reader who supports my work( she is a light skinned gorgeous lady) by the name Audrey. I just had to point out her skin tone because finding a light skinned woman who supports this kind of work is hard to come by. This is not meant to bash but just to point out the fact that there is a few number of light skin women who look at colorism from the dark skinned girl’s perspective.

She is probably drawing inspiration from actresses such as Zendaya Coleman and Amanda Stenberg and I absolutely appreciate it.

Now, there is a Nigerian lady who surprised her friend just before her wedding by refusing to let her join her bridesmaids. She went ahead to state that the dark skinned lady would not look appealing in the yellow dresses that were to be adorned by the maids who would grace the occasion. The dark skinned sister explained how this affected her self esteem. Colorism affects not only heterosexual relationships but almost all relationships across the spectrum. Dark skinned sisters can wear yellow and look good.

 

Nigeria is the hotbed of bleaching and colorism in Africa. From the roads of Lagos to the remote communities in Maiduguri, buyers are all over the country.Discoveries by Saturday Vanguard demonstrated that skin blanching has turned out to be one of the most noteworthy wants by Nigerian ladies and a few men nearby different basics like tea and so on.

This is probably why Dencia Whitenicious  launched her business there.Below is her photo.

Singer and Beauty entrepreneur Dencia recently launched her Whitenicious skin lightening cream in Lagos, Nigeria with Blac Chyna, the brand’s ambassador present.
Speaking to Broadway TV at the launch, Dencia, on whether Nigerians are going to get the product, said: “They have a choice. It’s not a necessity, it’s a luxury. The average Nigerian cannot buy it. So, it’s for people that need it and can afford it”. (BN TV. May 16, 2020)

I am not against women who choose to bleach their skin or exclude their friends from marching in their weddings. I am against their acts of colorism.

I will share my 5 tips on spotting a colorist friend on my next post, so that you can either address the issue, educate them or just leave that friensdhip altogther.

Stay safe and I am sending love to all my dark skinned Nigerian ladies. You are gorgeous, beautiful and worthy of evry ounce of love and appreciation. If you are a Nigerian lady and you come across this article please share it, so that we can reach as many dark skinned ladies as possible.

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