Hello my readers, today I am going continue from where we left from the previous post. Below are six steps that will dark skinned black women revamp themselves.

  1.  Stop obsessing over light skinned women:  There are many light skinned women who are absolutely gorgeous.  It is good to acknowledge their beauty. However, obsessing over their beauty may make you forget to put in the effort they put in order for them to be as gorgeous as they are. Instead of obsessing over them, you could use that time to learn how to do your make up or book a spa session. We got to put  effort into our appearance, remain cute and unbothered. Once we stop obsessing about them, we will be as comfortable as our sister in the picture below is.fσℓℓσω мє fσя мσяє ρσρριи ριиѕ ❥ Pinterest// @ℓιи∂αχ∂σℓℓ♚❁
  2. Affirm as if your life depends on it:  You got a brain in your head and shoes on your feet. Therefore, you can steer yourself in any direction you deem fit. Your thoughts surely become your reality. Buy yourself a cute notebook and a pen to match it. Write down an affirmation every morning before you go to the washroom. Remind yourself the affirmation through the day. Be intentional and positive with your affirmations. This will help you move past all the negativity that is thrown at dark skinned black women.20+ Positive Affirmations For Self-Love | Tulip and Sage
  3.  Get inspired: Feed your mind with amazing information about dark skinned women. Take advantage of social media to collect as much inspiration as possible. Here is a list of inspiration sources that I recommend:Chrissie on YouTube, Divine Dark Skin on Instagram, @itsjustaajlove and @ darkskinwomen on Instagram. There are many other sources but those may be a good place to start from. This is a picture of @itsjustajlove on Instagram.itsjustajlove: “ itsjustajlove: “Left or Right? ” Turning 21 Saturday ”
  4.  Reject underhanded compliments: You can be nice nasty while dismissing the infamous ‘you are too pretty to be dark skinned’ line. Remember to speak fluent sarcasm to those people. We cannot be teaching people to value us any longer. You can just remind the uncultured person that you are just pretty. When we accept such demeaning compliments the negative stereotypes will never end.
  5. Find your style: It is very unfortunate that we live in a very superficial world. People see style before they hear what you have to say. As a dark skinned black woman you were probably told to take your math homework more seriously when your light skinned counterparts  were taken to beauty pageants competitions. It is deeply ingrained in you to value your intellectual prowess at the expense of your personal style. However, that can change once you realize that it is very possible to have impeccable style and an intellectual standard that matches it. Drop the ugly skirts, get stylish eye glasses, get a lingerie and a good pair of heels. You can top the class and still look presentable. Drop the ‘looks do not matter’ attitude. You can do both.
  6. You already got game, so act like it; People hate more than we would want to admit. Dark skinned women have been told that they cannot wear bright clothes or makeup. There are many negative stereotypes attached to us and we are doing a good job at debunking them. We got game so we just have to act like it. Queens, set yourself apart with this gold trip swimsuit.

3 thoughts on “Revamp!

  1. Keep on going Reggie 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. My favorite part was (Rejecting underhanded compliments) I hate when people say you aren’t beautiful cause you are dark. Personally I always stare at dark girls cause I’m in awe of their beauty.

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  2. Story of my life being dark skinned….in my teens it had started bringing me down coz my bff was light and she got all the attention as boys literally say it to my face that they’re not talking to me I’m too black like a piece of coal 🙆🏾‍♀️ but ,my confidence grew,and I prayed to God for the strength to overcome self hatred.

    Fast forward to when I started dating my biracial boyfriend, you’d be surprised it has been fellow women trying to shame me talking about “your dude should just date a lady that look just like him,not you monkey ass black bitch” I wondered which kind of society are we living in if as the same gender we can’t uplift each other ! I thank God for him,he puts such people at their place and always & randomly tells me I’m beautiful even if I’m just from sleeping and I have drool all over my face 🤣
    I love my melanin and I commend you for boosting dark queens 💃🏾💃🏾🔥🔥we need more people like you in real life and even on social media ❤❤❤be blessed doll.

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    1. I am so happy because you finally got stronger and your self esteem grew. I am even happier that you got yourself a man who loves you so much and admires your beauty. I love your melanin Whitney keep popping sis. Thankyou so much for taking your time to read this post. You are actually making those haters uncomfortable because the y cant imagine a dark skinned woman being loved and appreciated. We are changing the game . All the best my fellow queen. Please share this message as much as you can. Thankyou. Be blessed too.

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