Road to 10k, chill with me

I cannot dance lol, so that is the only bad thing about Amapiano!

As an avid Amapiano fan, my parents must be proud of me. Why? You may ask. The real reason is simple. My father loves South African music so much and my mum nicknamed me Jabu and she still calls me Jabu to this day. So their influence really did something. Imagine being raised in a home where Brenda Fassie’s songs were played left right and centre, plus having a South African nick name to match and you end up not loving the music, that would make it at the top of embarrassment galore.

Below is a video of me trying my luck ,singing along to my favorites. I hope you like them as much as I did.

Finally, thanks so much guys, my blog is almost hitting 10k views (on the blog) because of your love and constant support.

See you on my next post. I love you guys so much, sending you love and light.

RIP Lufuno

Hello my lovely readers. I missed you all so much. I hope you are all doing fine. I just wanted to write a post in regards to the tragic incident of the late Lufuno Mavuhnga who took away her own life due to bullying. The fact that she was bullied because of her looks still breaks my heart. My condolences to her friends and family.

WHY DO I WRITE?

I strongly believe that we are all one people so the South African girl is just like a sister to me despite being Kenyan and that is why I chose to be part of this conversation.

NORMALIZATION OF BULLYING

As a dark skinned woman who was severely bullied due to my looks(dark skin tone) growing up, I really do understand the extent, detriment and heartache that comes along with being bullied especially on features that are ascribed to us by God Himself. This ranges from weight, height, skin color, hair type, race etc.

Honestly we really need to do better. Colorism is real and so is bullying.

Bullying dark skinned women is so normalized such that if we address it we most certainly get bullied even more and or nobody stands up for us. People bully dark skinned women for bleaching, remaining dark skinned, using filters and for so many other reasons.

Is the Argument redundant? Yes and No (It depends on how you perceive the issue)

I know my argument might sound redundant at this point but please stop bullying please because they have a dark skin tone. It is regressive and pointless.

It is so deep. It is still an issue that needs concise efforts and intentional conversations. We cannot afford to keep hurting and losing girls to this evil and regressive hierarchy of who is who based on skin tone.

Why it may seem redundant?

DEFLECTION

The argument may seem to be stretched out and meaningless because some people have normalized bullying of dark skinned women such that if people address it they are received with a ton of deflection and further bullying, you are just a bitter, self conscious, insecure and ugly dark skinned woman, that is why you speak about it. Stop using filters, fix yourself first and the list is endless. This dilutes the weight of the real issue.

CONCLUSION

What can we do?

We can collectively choose to stop glorifying bullying in any space including schools, work place and most especially, in social media platforms.

Choose kindness. It is free. I mean if you are well aware that a dark skinned woman bears the brunt of colorism almost daily, why bully her about the same and then ask her ‘to fix herself?’

Set up practical life skills programs in schools and encourage students to report bullying incidences.

Thanks so much for reading. See you next time. Goodbye. Kindly watch and sub to my channel. I address colorism there too.

GUYYYYYYSSSSSSSS!

I hope you are all doing fine. I have not posted in a long while. I miss engaging and interacting with you guys. I just need to get some things in order and I will be back like I never left.

So, I sharing with you guys my favorite Amapiano sounds and my sister backed these sounds with some great moves.

I love Umsebenzi Wethu so much, it is insane. When Mpura( I hope I am saying the right thing) says ‘Ngicela nithi hooray’ I get so happy and I don’t know what it means (lol).

I hope you enjoy this video, like, share, comment and subscribe. Bye and see you in my next post.

Hello

Hello my beautiful readers. I am just writing to let you know that I love you all so much. I honestly do not have any colorism content to share with you currently. So, hello!

Feel free to watch me and my best friend on my channel while enjoying a mukbang and a little chit chat. Also kindly sub for more.

Thanks and have a beautiful week.

Obsessed

Light skinned girls like you. That was the response. And you wonder, what was the reason?

INTRODUCTION

Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing fine. This post is going to address an issue that one netizen raised on an Instagram confession poll. The question posed as follows;

‘What are people so obsessed with but you do not get the point?’

Light skinned women like you, somebody responded.

So here are the reasons as to why people are obsessed.

OBSESSED

You are obsessed with light skinned women because of either one or all of these reasons;

  1. Media; Social media has pushed the idea of the light skinned beauty standard so much that it actually got you obsessed.
  2. Self hate; Yes I said it. Sometimes people hate themselves so much that they want nothing to do with anything that reminds them of where they came from, who they are or what they look like.
  3. Proving a point; Some people are so obsessed with light skins and they would do anything to be seen with a light skinned woman so that the society can applaud him for ‘being a bazu.’ They want to tell the society ‘yeah I made it guys’, have you seen who I am with?
  4. Peer pressure; Some squads have a herd mentality. They all want to date and obsess over a similar type of girls. It might be that your squad got you obsessing.
  5. Status; Kenyans such as Kaligraph Jones have pushed the idea that ‘light skinned women are expensive. It is natural for men to obssess and desire to be with a woman that ‘boosts’ their status if you know what I mean. This is somehow related to the ‘bazu’ point. You obsess because you have an incessant need to be seen with a woman who requires a lot and in turn people assume you got something going for yourself.

CONCLUSION

Honestly, I love it when people state their type and show them love. It only bothers me when they obssess to the detriment of the others. For instance, a man shading a dark skinned lady who rejected him by saying ‘unaringa na vile uko mweusi ungekuwa mweupe je?” demonstrates his frustrations for ‘doing the dark skinned a favour’ because he could not get his real type (light skinned). It also reeks of obsession with light skinned women whom he probably cannot have.

I advise that people go for their type and leave out those who are not your type.

Obsess with grace.

I love you all so much. See you on the next post.

Bye

Filters v Colorism

Excuse me, This is not my real face.

I know I am one day late. Please forgive my inconsistency ‘juu ninastruggle’. So, this post is based on what one of my friends asked me to write about. He asked me to write about colorism and filters.

FILTERS

If you have used your phone camera, you have probably come across the filters option. This option is not only tied to the phone default settings. They are also available on almost all applications including the most popular ones; Instagram, Snapchat and whats app.

I really don’t know the specific reason as to why they were created in the first place. I geuss they were meant to help us switch things up, make our pictures look better or maybe make us look prettier, not pretty but you get the point.

My favorite filter is the snapchat flower filter and the dog filter. Feel free to drop your favorite filter on the comment section.

COLORISM

Light skinned women use filters and become lighter. Well now you know.

Most of these filters make dark-skinned women including myself appear shades lighter. Kenyans actually bash dark skinned women who use filters and look lighter in pictures than in person but also bash dark skinned women for posting themselves without filters.

So you can as well use multiple filters in one pic if you want. Do you sis.

In my opinion, I think it is perfectly okay to use filters on pictures. Filters makes everybody look a bit different from their ‘real face’. It is all about the intention of the filter. Even light skinned women use filters and face tune but nobody wants to address that. It is only a problem when a dark skinned woman does it.

Yeah you got it, that is colorism.

SOLUTION

If you are a dark skinned lady who uses filter so that you can ‘feel prettier and reach the light skinned standard of beauty’ just take some time to do the work. You can take time to understand and find the root of your thinking. You might ask yourself ‘why do I have the incessant need to look lighter every time I take a picture?

‘Why do I just want to be light skinned ?’ Once you answer this question and the answer sounds like ‘I do not look good enough as a dark skin on pics or I look better with filters because of my skin tone’ then try to be more kind to yourself and cultivate a culture of self love. You might be using them to cover for self hate.

If you use filters just because… or you use filters because they were created so that we can use them….you are good. If you can comfortably take pictures with/without filters or use filters that maintain your skin tone then you are doing just fine. I actually like when filters maintain my dark skin tone but I also like those that do not maintain the dark skin tone . I am just saying.

Happy New year

Hello everyone. Happy new year to you all. I am glad to be back.

I will start creating content as from next week. Every Wednesday as usual. Thankyou so much for your engagement.

Meanwhile please check out my new Youtube video.

Bye😍💯