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I hope you are all doing fine. I have not posted in a long while. I miss engaging and interacting with you guys. I just need to get some things in order and I will be back like I never left.

So, I sharing with you guys my favorite Amapiano sounds and my sister backed these sounds with some great moves.

I love Umsebenzi Wethu so much, it is insane. When Mpura( I hope I am saying the right thing) says ‘Ngicela nithi hooray’ I get so happy and I don’t know what it means (lol).

I hope you enjoy this video, like, share, comment and subscribe. Bye and see you in my next post.

Hello

Hello my beautiful readers. I am just writing to let you know that I love you all so much. I honestly do not have any colorism content to share with you currently. So, hello!

Feel free to watch me and my best friend on my channel while enjoying a mukbang and a little chit chat. Also kindly sub for more.

Thanks and have a beautiful week.

Obsessed

Light skinned girls like you. That was the response. And you wonder, what was the reason?

INTRODUCTION

Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing fine. This post is going to address an issue that one netizen raised on an Instagram confession poll. The question posed as follows;

‘What are people so obsessed with but you do not get the point?’

Light skinned women like you, somebody responded.

So here are the reasons as to why people are obsessed.

OBSESSED

You are obsessed with light skinned women because of either one or all of these reasons;

  1. Media; Social media has pushed the idea of the light skinned beauty standard so much that it actually got you obsessed.
  2. Self hate; Yes I said it. Sometimes people hate themselves so much that they want nothing to do with anything that reminds them of where they came from, who they are or what they look like.
  3. Proving a point; Some people are so obsessed with light skins and they would do anything to be seen with a light skinned woman so that the society can applaud him for ‘being a bazu.’ They want to tell the society ‘yeah I made it guys’, have you seen who I am with?
  4. Peer pressure; Some squads have a herd mentality. They all want to date and obsess over a similar type of girls. It might be that your squad got you obsessing.
  5. Status; Kenyans such as Kaligraph Jones have pushed the idea that ‘light skinned women are expensive. It is natural for men to obssess and desire to be with a woman that ‘boosts’ their status if you know what I mean. This is somehow related to the ‘bazu’ point. You obsess because you have an incessant need to be seen with a woman who requires a lot and in turn people assume you got something going for yourself.

CONCLUSION

Honestly, I love it when people state their type and show them love. It only bothers me when they obssess to the detriment of the others. For instance, a man shading a dark skinned lady who rejected him by saying ‘unaringa na vile uko mweusi ungekuwa mweupe je?” demonstrates his frustrations for ‘doing the dark skinned a favour’ because he could not get his real type (light skinned). It also reeks of obsession with light skinned women whom he probably cannot have.

I advise that people go for their type and leave out those who are not your type.

Obsess with grace.

I love you all so much. See you on the next post.

Bye

Filters v Colorism

Excuse me, This is not my real face.

I know I am one day late. Please forgive my inconsistency ‘juu ninastruggle’. So, this post is based on what one of my friends asked me to write about. He asked me to write about colorism and filters.

FILTERS

If you have used your phone camera, you have probably come across the filters option. This option is not only tied to the phone default settings. They are also available on almost all applications including the most popular ones; Instagram, Snapchat and whats app.

I really don’t know the specific reason as to why they were created in the first place. I geuss they were meant to help us switch things up, make our pictures look better or maybe make us look prettier, not pretty but you get the point.

My favorite filter is the snapchat flower filter and the dog filter. Feel free to drop your favorite filter on the comment section.

COLORISM

Light skinned women use filters and become lighter. Well now you know.

Most of these filters make dark-skinned women including myself appear shades lighter. Kenyans actually bash dark skinned women who use filters and look lighter in pictures than in person but also bash dark skinned women for posting themselves without filters.

So you can as well use multiple filters in one pic if you want. Do you sis.

In my opinion, I think it is perfectly okay to use filters on pictures. Filters makes everybody look a bit different from their ‘real face’. It is all about the intention of the filter. Even light skinned women use filters and face tune but nobody wants to address that. It is only a problem when a dark skinned woman does it.

Yeah you got it, that is colorism.

SOLUTION

If you are a dark skinned lady who uses filter so that you can ‘feel prettier and reach the light skinned standard of beauty’ just take some time to do the work. You can take time to understand and find the root of your thinking. You might ask yourself ‘why do I have the incessant need to look lighter every time I take a picture?

‘Why do I just want to be light skinned ?’ Once you answer this question and the answer sounds like ‘I do not look good enough as a dark skin on pics or I look better with filters because of my skin tone’ then try to be more kind to yourself and cultivate a culture of self love. You might be using them to cover for self hate.

If you use filters just because… or you use filters because they were created so that we can use them….you are good. If you can comfortably take pictures with/without filters or use filters that maintain your skin tone then you are doing just fine. I actually like when filters maintain my dark skin tone but I also like those that do not maintain the dark skin tone . I am just saying.

Happy New year

Hello everyone. Happy new year to you all. I am glad to be back.

I will start creating content as from next week. Every Wednesday as usual. Thankyou so much for your engagement.

Meanwhile please check out my new Youtube video.

Bye😍💯

Blogmas Edition!Day 29

A message to the ‘Average Black woman’

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. So recently I saw a video of a black woman seeking dating advice from an image consultant known as Kevin Samuels. Before I proceed to my commentary, I would like you to watch the video and then proceed.

My opinion

The black community especially in my country considers dark skinned women as ‘average/non-desirable and or ugly.’

So the typical expectation is that ‘average women should never want anything high for themselves. They should not have high standards because average people do not deserve the best. That is why Kenyans attacked Elsa for wanting to marry a man who would pay four million USD for her hand in marriage. I am pretty sure if she was not considered ‘average’ and if she was ‘light-skinned’, the reaction would be quite different.

However, I think very differently. I believe, with every fiber of my being that ‘average women’ have all it takes to choose the kind of partners they want and set standards as they please.

The Message to the average black/ dark skinned girl

  1. Move silently. Not every body needs to know your dating standards and dating preferences. At least make it known to your potential partners and or a few family members and friends. This will save you a lot of drama and trolling.
  2. Work on your self esteem. Having a high self esteem will help you believe in your standards so much such that you can barely tolerate anything outside the scope of what you want.
  3. Brace yourself for hate. If you already told everyone about your dating preferences and high standards, then buckle up for the rough comments and unsolicited advice. If you are mentally prepared, it will be easier for you to ignore.
  4. Be graceful. Even after the hate, just be graceful and stick to your standards. Do not be the ‘typical angry black woman’ when addressing people who bring you down. Keep it moving gracefully. You can rant to your friends though.
  5. Be patient. Working on yourself requires patient. Setting standards and meeting a person who fits the part requires patience. So be patient and decline everything that does not meet your threshold.

You will not die alone. Be patient.

Bye! See you on the next post.

I love you all

Blogmas Edition! Day 28

Elsa Majimbo and colorism

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Today, I came across some tweets calling out Elsa Majimbo for addressing colorism on Naomi Campbell’s interview. So I decided to write down a commentary on it.

Earlier on, I had a post touching on colorism and Elsa Majimbo. Feel free to check it out.

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GASLIGHTING

Now some Kenyans went ahead and attacked Elsa for addressing colorism on the show. They have compared her to Rono (a popular dark skinned, female Kenyan comedian). Some have compared her sentiments to the colorism Edwin Butita has experienced before, but nobody asked Elsa how colorism affected her career. Nobody asked Elsa how colorism mentally affected her. The Kenyan netizens only cared about the ‘disrespect on an International level’ but ignored the fact that she struggled with colorism.

People just jumped into ‘nobody has ever hinted on colorism about you in this app’ bandwagon. It is very clear that Kenyans hate to admit the fact that colorism is a real problem that should be addressed head on.

It seems Kenyans want Elsa’s approval more than learning from her and analyzing the hurdles she had to deal with (colorism included) before achieving so much. Some are now bashing dark skinned women and calling them ‘churas’ (frogs) because Elsa addressed colorism.

One netizen tried to be funny and stated that Elsa is maybe trying ‘dark humor.’ Kenyans have an ugly habit of demeaning dark skinned women and denying it simultaneously. They make colorist jokes and throw the ‘dark skinned women are so angry and sensitive, kwani hamjui jokes?‘ statement like confetti.

It is 2020 and dark skinned women can tell the difference between a joke and an insult.

CONCLUSION

Comparing Elsa to Eddy Butita and Rono is pointless. Trying to invalidate her experience with colorism via unsolicited comparisons is a gaslighting technique that needs to be left in 2020.

People should learn to listen to the colorism issues faced by dark skinned women without judging, comparing and or invalidating.

Colorism is real. Stop invalidating this issue.

Bye everyone! I will see you on the next post.

Blogmas Edition! Day 27

Betty Bayo and skin bleaching

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. This post shall discuss on whether one should change for the sake of pleasing their romantic partners.

Betty Bayo a Kenyan gospel artist bleached her skin because her then fiancee promised to marry her only if she was ‘rangi ya thao’ which when loosely translated means light skin.

Unfortunately the relationship did not last and she was left with a lot of ‘work to do’ on her skin. I think it must have been very stressful and painful for her.

My opinion

Once a man asks you to bleach yourself for him to love you/marry you/treat you right; That is a big red flaf exposing his colorist self. Do not fall for it.

I don’t think ladies should change their skin tone for anybody not even their ‘lovers’

Colorist partners are toxic. Even after you ‘bleach for them’, they will probably always remind you of how dark you were, how uneven your skin looks or mocjk you for the very decision you took for pleasing them.

Conclusion

In short, just date a person who loves your dark skin and everything about you. Do not change yourself for anyone. You have your dark skin for a reason. Embrace it.